How To Hold Self Confidence When the World (Virtually) is Against You?
Losing out your self confidence when other people surrounding you are not in line with your thoughts, ideas, daily routine, health wise, work wise, etc. is a real world problem. This leads to continuous conflicts between you and the other person which ultimately makes you feel that you are doing something wrong and hence you start losing out your self confidence based on which you started some activity or similar of yours. Assume a scenario throughout the article – that you are doing something positive and new career wise to which people around you are not completely onboard but you are adamant and are moving forward with it but now have started losing out confidence. Below mentioned 5 points will help you in understanding that how you should maintain your self confidence in every situation
1. You Cannot Make Everyone Happy, so Choose
Firstly you should take account on who is the person opposite you in this situation of yours. Whether he/she is a closed one like parents, siblings or friends who actually care about your good and bad in life. If the answer is yes, then you should actually consider listening to them on whatever their perspective is on the matter because more often than not these people will try to help you and guide you in your tough time. Many a times we tend to lose out our way in blindly believing certain stuffs and going behind it, so at such times we should not consider a closed one’s advice as interference, in fact we should sit and hear their point of view. By doing this patiently, your sense of resistance against discussing the issue with them will not trigger and hence your self confidence will stay intact. Also, if the conversation makes you feel that you are actually on the wrong path in something you are doing then do consider their perspective as well.
2. Filter Out Genuine Problems and Look for Solutions
As humans, whenever, some things of a certain activity are not going our way we tend to categorize the whole activity itself as a big issue and here we open a door to make our self confidence more vulnerable. In such situations, you should actually filter out only the weighted problems that you are facing and then think about what priority do they hold and how to solve them based on it. This will simply breakdown your thought process wisely and you will think about each one’s solution and think of moving forward. After this, you will start building a “solution first thought process” and even bigger problems will not be able to trigger you easily. You would have heard this idiom that “don’t cry over spilt milk”. This is the perfect example which says that instead of crying over already spilt milk you should focus on fixing it and making sure that it doesn’t happen again.
3. Remember your Childhood Days, the Hero you were
A lot of you will agree that we as humans start complicating our life as we start growing up from child to an adult. During childhood days, we used to be fearless in most of the cases and our self confidence used to be high because we did not do overthinking on each and every stuff then, no matter how sunny, tough the weather used to be, we used to go and play our outdoor games freely and whole heartedly. As a kid we used to feel that our body is a single entity as a whole and while playing we never used to think anything negative but as we grew up we kind of realised that our body is actually a combination of various body parts and after knowing this, we lost our childhood fearlessness and start treating our body and its parts likewise. All I want to say through this is remember the fearlessness, honesty, never say no attitude to play as a child, no matter what conditions were around you, refresh all of these energies and store them once again with you in combination with a wise mind to boost your self confidence.
4. Don’t Fake Your Feelings and Self Confidence
As grown-ups we tend to fail in registering first that there is a problem and hence start faking feelings like self confidence in this case. Firstly not to anyone else but to you accept that you are facing an issue and you need to solve it. Just by doing this much you will immediately feel a certain sense of relief in your heart and from that point you will think about gaining your self confidence back and the steps required to do so. Taking help from activities like Yoga, exercises, focus techniques, etc. will also be fruitful to you and you should consider doing these as well as per your preference. Once you start these, don’t give up in just a few tries or days, do the grind for some days and make these activities a regular habit as this will build your mental and feelings immune system very well. You will suddenly start feeling more powerful in handling matters that you used to overthink previously, losing self confidence in this case.
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5. Its OK Not To Be OK Sometimes
Don’t forget that no person in this world has the ability to stay with perfection everytime and so are you. Don’t make your life too serious in just trying to gain everything everytime. Enjoy being on the low side as well at times in life, whether you are facing something financially, health wise, mentally, etc. Do remember to take these as well with a positive attitude and make sure that you learn and make yourself tougher from each of these experiences. Having just the highs in life may unknowingly make you egoistic, less considerate, not wanting to improve, boss mentality, etc. in majority cases. So yes, treat your lows with a big smile and convert them slowly into first neutral positions and then your highs. Lastly, don’t let any situation become worse and worse for you. Very maturely identify such scenarios at the earliest and immediately work towards normalizing them so that nothing can harm you and your self confidence majorly.
So yes readers, if you follow the above mentioned steps by Wiser Word and make them your thumb rule in life, you will never be out of self confidence and hence losing it on small matters will not even exist.
Hoping that you are now in a happy and confident space:)
